The short answer to the question “how can I be a (more) feminist man?”, the one you get if you’re standing on one foot, is don’t be a sexist asshole, be a decent human being, but the problem is that most of us don’t think we’re assholes, we don’t spend much time thinking at all. Trained not to see a slope, ignoring the crookedness is the default setting of our culture.
or how about this one?
In the five days that it's taken me to complete this article, it's estimated that 250 women and girls have been raped in South Kivu, in eastern Congo. In South Kivu, a doctor, in conversation with Eve Ensler, said the most common wound to woman is a "traumatic fistula . . . caused by insertion of a gun, bottle or stick into the vagina or shooting a gun between the woman's legs," causing a "rupture between the vagina, bladder and/or rectum," and rendering "an uncontrollable leakage of fluids, secretions, urine or feces." The intent is not to kill the woman, but to shame her. This is a "strategy of war."